Calculating The Benefits of Marriage

Last 2 nights before falling asleep, I was somehow calculating the benefits I would get out of marriage; one in particular was the amount of time I would get to spend with my husband when married.

Drawing from the typical lifestyle of a young, married couple in the modern world, I realized that the ideas that come together with marriage such as living together, the ability to be with one another and spending endless time with each other is just a piece of shit that misleads many like me to think marriage as something very promising but actually merely thoughts which will never quite happen and one that will never quite come true.

For I think many married couples spend a lot of their time at work than they actually do with their spouse in a normal working day. It is of course not by choice, but this too, has caused many, at some points of time in their life, to actually end up familiarizing themselves to their colleagues loads more than they think they do towards their spouse.

Also because of the demands at work in creating and maintaining good co-worker relationship, more time, energy and effort are needed to be spent engaging in conversation and recreation with colleagues during work and over lunch breaks, day by day, than with spouse, who probably gets to spend only about 3-4 hours with the other half in each working day.

Even then the 3-4 hours spent on a spouse would be one that will be accompanied with a surrounding atmosphere of exhaustion from, and complaints or stories about work, given my observation on working adults who work on a 9 to 6 schedule, who casually find home a retreat and a place to destress themselves before the next day.

So it seems like there is not going to be much change or rather, progress, in the amount of time I can spend with my husband when married as compared to that of the "dating days" as he will be working and he will be left with little time for me each day.

So why do people in general still portray the image of marriage as a step to an enhanced togetherness and companionship when in reality marriage neither comes with an increased time for one another nor better off the relationship through the time spent on each other. Doesn’t it make marriage a false anticipation to a greater sense of eternal friendship in a couple?